The Secret to Happiness


Is there a secret to lasting happiness?

This is a subject I can barely scratch the surface of in a blog. We could spend a whole week learning techniques for something that seems so easy…happiness.

That’s because most people are waiting for something outside themselves to make them happy. Like people, things or circumstances. “I’ll be happy when…”

But life is not happening to you, it is happening for you. Happiness is a choice and it’s an inside job.

Easier said, than done, right? Especially when you have negative people and stressful circumstances, getting thrown at you from every direction; or worse, from inside your own head.

Your own thoughts can be your worst enemy. If you are like me, you can get a thought stuck in your head and hear it over and over again, beating the drum of something negative. Maybe it wasn’t even YOUR THOUGHT. Maybe it was what someone else said or how they made you feel. Maybe it was from something you read or watched. Or more likely, your inner critic (prehistoric brain) is trying to protect you, by always giving you the worse case scenario for optimal survival.

Many times when I want to start a new project, I get scared and start telling myself all the reasons why it won’t work.

“Who am I to teach this? Why do I think I can write a book. I don’t know what to do? What if no one likes it. Will be judged? What if it doesn’t work?”

We all suffer with criticism, whether it be internal or external. I believe there is a key to lasting happiness and once you know the secret of positive momentum, your life will transform.

Here are some simple steps to override this programming and create lasting happiness, in spite of your environment.

1. Sleep on it

When you wake up in the morning, or after sleep, you are at the peak of your ability to connect with God, Spirit, Angels, your higher self, etc. Meditation is helpful too, but not enough for most people who don’t meditate regularly and know how to quiet their mind.

During sleep, you are releasing all the resistant thought, you’ve created through momentum that day.  What I mean by resistance, is the feelings, that aren’t matching up to what you want. You want money but “feel” broke, for instance. You want a lover in your life, but you “feel” alone.

Your words are not creating, it’s your energy, your feelings or rather your “vibration,” that is attracting.

You can think of it like good vibes: positive expectation/a knowing/excitement/happiness, are bringing you what you want.

While bad vibes: lack of/frustrated/negative/complaining, are bringing you the opposite of what you want.

One way to create resistance to the very thing you want, is through the momentum of negative thought.

2. Notice your inner and outer dialog

When you wake up, notice the conversation you are having with yourself or others. Do you feel irritated that you have to get up too early? Are you starting off your day with a vibration of complaining? Does it sound something like this?

“I’m so tired. I didn’t sleep well. My partner/dog/cat was keeping me up. I can’t believe how early the trash truck comes. What was with the ambulance blaring in the middle of the night? I have so much to do today. (sigh) I don’t know how I’m going to get it all done. I never have time to do what I want. I feel overwhelmed already. I need to get the kids up. I’m so sleepy. UG. Where’s the coffee? When is someone going to wait on me? Why am I always late? “Hurry up, you’re going to miss the bus.” I sure wish I hadn’t hit the snooze button. I’m so tired. It’s so cold. It’s so hot. I have nothing to wear, nothing fits, I must be gaining weight…”

3. Law of attraction is bringing you a match to how you feel.

And now as you start your day, each thought every 16 seconds – according to Abraham Hicks – is building on the last and creating momentum. And now in the wrong direction, if you feel negative. Law of attraction is giving you more of the same. As the day goes on, you are really getting good at pointing out what doesn’t please you: traffic, the ticket on the way to work, other people, politics, etc.

How you feel is not better, but worse, and it’s gaining momentum. People around you are bothersome, you feel overwhelmed or stressed and nothing is just not working out in your favor. You can tell by the way you feel and react. Have you ever noticed if you start talking about something you don’t like, you can get worked up. The more you talk about it, the more frustrated or angry you can become. Momentum is making it bigger, as every 16 seconds passes by and builds on the last.

At this point, you may not be pleasant to be around either. Trust me, we’ve all been there, no one is immune to a “bad day.” But where did this bad day come from?

Oh wait, you’re telling me I created it?” Well yeah, in so many words.

4. If you want something different you have to “be” different

What if you deliberately chose your thoughts, decided what you gave your attention to and thoughtfully talked only about what made you happy? Even if your day started out poorly, you could shift your vibration to great. But what if as soon as you woke up, you deliberately created positive momentum? It might go something like this:

“It is good to be alive and breathing. I’m sleeping rather well now. I feel refreshed. I love my bed. It is good to be up in the early morning and enjoy the quiet before the world is awake. I love that the birds wake me up to their music. I love how nature makes me feel. I wonder what excitement I will enjoy today? I’m looking forward to all the surprises the Universe has in store for me today. I am grateful to have two feet to walk on. I am so happy to have a family to feed and arms to hug me. All is really well. I am happy. Today is going to be a great day and I feel really good right now.”

Momentum is building every 16 seconds as you string your thoughts along. Even if you don’t feel it right away, you will begin to feel great because positive momentum is building. If someone dumps their breakfast on the floor, you don’t feel anger or frustration, instead you feel easy about it because of where your vibration is. You feel nurturing, caring and helpful instead. “It’s OK accidents happen. No worries. I’ll help you clean it up.”

5. Momentum of positive thoughts is the key to lasting happiness.

No matter what is happening around you, it is hard to knock you off your cloud 9, because momentum has created a strong enough state, that you have become impenetrable. As you begin each day with directed and deliberate happy thoughts – looking for the blessings and pointing out the joy – you are creating an unstoppable momentum, that will not only give you lasting happiness, but will allow you to tap into the infinite energy that creates worlds.

These positive thoughts begin with empowering statements like:

“I am…I have…I love when…I’m so lucky…I’m so grateful…It is so nice…Isn’t it wonderful that…

This will create the positive momentum you need to ride out your day with happiness.

If you can spend the first 15 minutes, in a deliberate state of happiness, momentum will increase your joy as you continue this throughout the day until it becomes a state you enjoy most of your life. The best part, is that you can turn on your happy anytime you like, through positive momentum. What would happen if you did this for 30 days straight? How would your life transform?

6. When happiness is your dominant state, the Universe will respond to your joy, with more of the same.

Just one positive thought on top of another, then another, every 16 seconds, as you string them along, you are building momentum to change the trajectory of your day, even if it started out all wrong.

“You know what? It’s not really that bad. I’m doing pretty good. Things generally do work out for me. I’m feeling better already because I am choosing to feel good. I’m going to smile through the next 15 minutes and deliberately change my state. I am appreciating that I can choose my thoughts. I’m noticing which thought feels better and I’m choosing what I give my attention to. Today is turning around already. I can feel the shift within. I’m smiling because happiness is an inside job. I am the only one that can make me happy. I choose how I will feel right now and I choose happy.”

If you have a day where someone knocked you off your happy cloud, and you’re having trouble talking your self into change, the easiest way to find your way back is when you’ve slept away the resistance.

As Scarlet said, in Gone with the Wind, “I’ll think about that tomorrow.”




Love note:

Just start with one happy thought as soon as you wake up and then another one and another one…until…

You feel happy.

Like rainbow love muffins and unicorn smiley cakes with a side of sugary glitter fluff.

Thinking about those things makes me think of my little girl, and that always makes me smile.

Yes please. More of that. Happiness is a choice.

I’m happy now, how about you?




    November 28, 2017 at 9:41 AM
    • laura laire

      Thank you, danelle for commenting and for your wisdom. I know you know how powerful these tools can be. big love my friend!

      November 30, 2017 at 11:17 AM

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